A Little This, A Little That
2006-06-23 @ 7:00 a.m.

I had to give a presentation at work the other day. It was supposed to last about fifteen minutes. There was no need to do much prep work as I knew the material inside and out. The presentation was for a client who happens to also be a flaming A-Hole.

So, I sit there, do my thing and I'm suddenly distracted. The client has a god-awful toupee. Really bad. Instead of concentrating on what I'm saying, I'm mentally rearranging his toupee: further back...no....too far....a bit to the left....no good either. Maybe more to the right.

Very embarrassing.

Salacious Desires and Lazy Geisha have started menage a trois. I look forward to reading it. Stop by and give them a try. They are two of my favorite writers (I'm not familiar with the third, Tricia, but look forward to reading her posts also).

Finally, I ran into an old college acquaintance. We chatted on the street for ten or twenty minutes before we decided to get a cup of coffee and make an afternoon of it. We ended up talking for about two hours. We found a quiet place and got all caught-up. About half way through our conversation Tamara says, out of the blue, "You know, I had a crush on you." I smiled and said, "You're so sweet." Our conversation then got back on track.

When we parted, she held my arm and gave me her phone number. Then she asked for mine. It would have been rude to say no.

So, a few thoughts. First, was Tamara hitting on me? I don't mean to sound self-centered. I usually know when a male hits on me and I damn well know when I'm hitting on a male. I'm not quite sure when females are hitting on me (hardly a common occurrence). Do males have that problem? Figuring out when a female is being friendly as opposed to flirting?

I inquire about Tamara possibly hitting on me because the "I had a crush on you," comment came out of nowhere. It did not fit neatly into the conversation.

I'm always taken back when another female finds me attractive (again, not a common occurrence). In a funny way, it's so much more flattering than hearing it from a male. Women can be so tough on other women. I shamelessly admit it's good for my ego.

Have most women had crushes on other women? In my experience, yes. I know I have. A few friends have admitted to it also. It's a different species of crush, though. In my case, I've had two or three. They were not precisely sexual, although I did find the women (girls actually, one crush was in high school and another in college) attractive. It was more of an admiration for that girl's personality. I tend to admire smart, tough, self-confident women that don't shy away from controversy or from being the center of attention. Basically, my opposite. When they draw me into their circle (the smart, self-confident women) it makes me feel rather special.

Do men have crushes on other men? Okay, you can stop screaming "no" at your computer screen. But maybe they do. Except it's non-sexual, bordering more on hero-worship. It reminds me of that great Seinfeld episode when Elaine started to date that baseball player. Jerry wasn't sure if he was jealous of the baseball player or of Elaine.